Today I encountered behavior that many mothers experience, but isn’t talked about enough.
This morning I had a doctor’s appointment and I brought my two moth old with me, because why leave my poor husband with all 5 kids when I am able to take at least one? As I waited for my name to be called, the babe started to fuss a little, not crying, just started to appear frustrated being in the car seat and rooting signaling to me “I’m hungry and I’m going to lose it soon!”
I pick up my baby, throw on my nursing cover and begin to nurse. I cannot tell you how many dirty looks I got while feeding my baby. What’s more troubling, every person in that waiting room was female except for a child there with his mother. One woman even pointed me out, whispering to her neighbor.
It blows my mind that other women were casting judgement on me for feeding my baby! Would they have rather I let my baby scream while I waited to go into a room, providing more privacy? If I did that, they would judge me for allowing my baby to cry. It’s a catch 22. Basically I’m being judged no matter what I choose to do at this point. My baby and breast were fully covered, and if you know me personally, you know how private of a person I am.
It’s upsetting to feel condemned for providing nourishment for my child, a little person who cannot feed herself. It is my duty to provide care for her and my legal right to nurse in public. When will people, especially women, begin to accept this practice? I know I am not alone in this. I will continue to feed my baby wherever and whenever she is hungry. Thankfully I have a wonderful doctor and practice that support my decision to nurse there.
To my other breastfeeding mommas, do not allow anyone to make you feel that you are doing something wrong or shameful by nursing your baby in public. Keep up the excellent work!
Below is a link listing states and their laws regarding public breastfeeding.
Have you ever felt shamed for breastfeeding in public? Share your experiences with me.